R U Single?

R U Single?

If you're Single, you might be subject to The Dating Game.  If you're single, perhaps not.  In any case, time to rewrite the rules.

Feel free to let the Diva/Divo within have a little fun... After all, if you're looking for relationship growth and depth, a perspective partner should be accepting of you and all aspects of your lifestyle.  The person should be as concerned about your health as though it was his/her own.  There really is very little room for vascillation -- the person must work with you to ensure that your life experiences are safe, or the person does not have what it takes to go the long haul.

At first, understanding what it means for a person to live an anaphylactic lifestyle can seem daunting to your new partner... But after the initial shock, the next stage should be characterized by learning and understanding.  Fascination (as in, "Oooh, looky!  A new toy!") should not be confused with a sincere zest for learning.  The former is a sign that the person truly cares for your well-being, and the latter is the sign of someone who's dating style is more a manifestation of ADHD.  

The learner will ask questions (sometimes lots), so as to understand your allergy, how it makes you feel, the warning signs, etc.  Try to be patient -- this is what s/he needs to do to come to an intelligent comfort with your reality. This person will probably ask if you have medication, and, in the event that you have a reaction, what the course is and specifically how to administer it to you.  This person will not think twice about abandoning one restaurant for another, or reordering his/her kitchen, if it means your safety.  Your safe, healthy company is far more important than all else.

The ADHD variety might ask probing questions out of curiosity... You're an interesting phenomenon... To be studied... Until the point when it's no longer a fun mystery.  This type might also never ask questions... Might show a curious lack of interest in the fact that random carelessness could mean the difference between life and death for you...  No matter what words burst forth from this person's lips, believe her/his actions and not the sizzle... A lack of sincere interest in your lifestyle speaks of her/his lack of sincere interest in you... And foretells that s/he will amount to nothing more than a passing ship in your night.

Such is life.  Destiny has given us one leg up on sorting out the mice from the humanoids....